Really, I’m annoyed. I’m surprised I haven’t written about this sooner and maybe I did write about it at some point and forgot, I don’t know. I’m annoyed with people who don’t have a sense of humor. Nay, I’m annoyed with people who don’t have a sense of humor and do nothing to find one.
I want to piggy back on this and also express my annoyance with people who are too private and find fault with you because you are an open book. I think a certain amount of self-deprecation is healthy. I’m not talking low self-esteem, finding fault in everything one does. I’m talking about being able to laugh at yourself. Additionally, it’s cathartic to express your issues. More times than not, I receive an “I’ve been there too” response after writing a post. I believe in using this blog as a way to say, “We’ve all been there. We are all perfectly imperfect.” I try really hard to understand people who attempt to always give off an impression of perfection. You know who I’m talking about, they’ll announce to no one particular shit like……
“We never fight.”
“I only drink 1 glass of Chardonnay. Anymore and it’s simply unhealthy.”
“My job is WONDERFUL!”
“My kids are so well-behaved.”
Do you realize some of the things I’ve admitted to being guilty of or being diagnosed with?
- I’ve shit myself at work.
- HORRIBLE at saving money.
- I need to lose weight.
- Adult temper tantrums.
- Depression and ADD.
- Atypical ductal hyperplasia.
And you know what? I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I’m tired of trolls, looking for a reason why something shouldn’t be funny. To these people I want to say get off your fucking high horse, quit judging and work on yourself. You obviously need a sense of humor, so start there. I’ve called myself on many occasions, an ass hole, a dick, a bitch, a moron, a dork and an idiot. The best I can do is work on my short comings or laugh at my imperfections and trust me, there are a TON.
“Hot Mess, how do I get one of these sense of humors you speak of?”
No idea. Seriously, I have no idea. Actually wait…..I do. O.k, just tossing out ideas here, try this first and see if your wet-poodle personality goes away.
5-Point Strategy to Gaining a Sense of Humor
- Who is always getting laughs in your office or group of friends? Do they seem miserable? No, they don’t. Because they have a sense of humor.
- Learn to find the funny in embarrassing moments or just be able to laugh at yourself when everything goes wrong!
- Know that the best medicine is laughter. In fact, before my Oncologist found an anti-depressant that wouldn’t affect my Tamoxifen, I would self-medicate with laughter. During particular rough times with depression, I would watch “Shit Girls Say” on YouTube or Amy Schumer’s “Meerkats”. Haven’t see these? O.M.G, stop reading (please come back later) and go watch them!
- If someone laughs at something you think should be taken seriously or isn’t funny, think before you respond. Are you going to add value to everyone’s day with your response or are you officially going to shit on this carefree moment? I once posted why dogs are not children and you would have thought I announced I was killing the dogs….and the children. Thankfully, my friend sent me a message to say he understood my sarcasm and people need to lighten up.
- Appreciate that your version of TMI isn’t everyone’s version. My TMI threshold is pretty high but don’t judge me because your TMI threshold is on par with a nun.
So first of all, to all those serious readers who struggle with humor, you’re welcome for my 5-point strategy to gaining one.
I’m like Tony Fucking Robbins here.