Really, I’m annoyed. I’m surprised I haven’t written about this sooner and maybe I did write about it at some point and forgot, I don’t know. I’m annoyed with people who don’t have a sense of humor. Nay, I’m annoyed with people who don’t have a sense of humor and do nothing to find one.
I want to piggy back on this and also express my annoyance with people who are too private and find fault with you because you are an open book. I think a certain amount of self-deprecation is healthy. I’m not talking low self-esteem, finding fault in everything one does. I’m talking about being able to laugh at yourself. Additionally, it’s cathartic to express your issues. More times than not, I receive an “I’ve been there too” response after writing a post. I believe in using this blog as a way to say, “We’ve all been there. We are all perfectly imperfect.” I try really hard to understand people who attempt to always give off an impression of perfection. You know who I’m talking about, they’ll announce to no one particular shit like……
“We never fight.”
“I only drink 1 glass of Chardonnay. Anymore and it’s simply unhealthy.”
“My job is WONDERFUL!”
“My kids are so well-behaved.”
Do you realize some of the things I’ve admitted to being guilty of or being diagnosed with?
- I’ve shit myself at work.
- HORRIBLE at saving money.
- I need to lose weight.
- Adult temper tantrums.
- Depression and ADD.
- Atypical ductal hyperplasia.
And you know what? I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I’m tired of trolls, looking for a reason why something shouldn’t be funny. To these people I want to say get off your fucking high horse, quit judging and work on yourself. You obviously need a sense of humor, so start there. I’ve called myself on many occasions, an ass hole, a dick, a bitch, a moron, a dork and an idiot. The best I can do is work on my short comings or laugh at my imperfections and trust me, there are a TON.
“Hot Mess, how do I get one of these sense of humors you speak of?”
No idea. Seriously, I have no idea. Actually wait…..I do. O.k, just tossing out ideas here, try this first and see if your wet-poodle personality goes away.
5-Point Strategy to Gaining a Sense of Humor
- Who is always getting laughs in your office or group of friends? Do they seem miserable? No, they don’t. Because they have a sense of humor.
- Learn to find the funny in embarrassing moments or just be able to laugh at yourself when everything goes wrong!
- Know that the best medicine is laughter. In fact, before my Oncologist found an anti-depressant that wouldn’t affect my Tamoxifen, I would self-medicate with laughter. During particular rough times with depression, I would watch “Shit Girls Say” on YouTube or Amy Schumer’s “Meerkats”. Haven’t see these? O.M.G, stop reading (please come back later) and go watch them!
- If someone laughs at something you think should be taken seriously or isn’t funny, think before you respond. Are you going to add value to everyone’s day with your response or are you officially going to shit on this carefree moment? I once posted why dogs are not children and you would have thought I announced I was killing the dogs….and the children. Thankfully, my friend sent me a message to say he understood my sarcasm and people need to lighten up.
- Appreciate that your version of TMI isn’t everyone’s version. My TMI threshold is pretty high but don’t judge me because your TMI threshold is on par with a nun.
So first of all, to all those serious readers who struggle with humor, you’re welcome for my 5-point strategy to gaining one.
I’m like Tony Fucking Robbins here.
Now that I think about it, it’s rather sad when people don’t have a sense of humor. Hopefully you enlighten some of them with these tips. 🙂
It is sad. If you think about it, it’s a way we can heal somewhat. It can be a distraction or an ice breaker. Humor allows us to bond with people and relax. It really is special in my book.
What happened? You do let us in and many of us relate to what you’ve been through. Totally feel like we’re on the same page with our struggles with children, dislike for cooking and apparent lack of saving money. Yep, I’m there too.
I will private message you at some point and tell you what fueled this rant. Yep, I can relate to you and all those struggles. It sucks. You want to do it right but sometime you (me) just don’t know how.
Ok. Let me know. Some people have to step back and breathe
Consequently, an Instagram account I follow mentioned recently that when she interviews for a job, she asks the interviewer if they prefer Tupac or Biggie Smalls. She said it’s her way of finding out if they have a sense of humor and she will mesh with the company. I think this is an amazing technique.
One of the things I love about your blog is the honesty, the authenticity and your sense of humor. Please never change 🙂
THAT QUESTION IS SO GOOD! I would totally use that if I was 100% I wouldn’t be disqualified but then again I guess the disqualification is what it’s there for: to see if you are going to mesh with the company. Brilliant! Oh Autumn, thank you sooo much for the compliment! I’m so glad you like my blog! Stop by anytime for a visit! Wait till you see the video I’m posting tomorrow. It’s near and dear to my heart!
You Hot Mess ARE Tony Fucking Robbins! Best post ever. Now to watch shit girls say ?
OMG!!! Thank you! Watch all of them! Then afterwards, watch Shit Black Girls Say! So fucking funny! Did you like it?
Yes, I liked it. I listened through headphones and was giggling. The mister kept asking what was so funny so I told him. I guess it is a girl thing because he didn’t quite think it was as funny as I did.
Ah I’m so glad! I read your comment while walking Chichi and it made me want to watch the rest of them so I did while making my coffee. I wish he made other videos. He is too funny!
I love you and I love this. I’m not judging others I am laughing at and railing on myself and I need that to get better. Love it. No, I don’t want others to call me fat and gross and or critique my inaction or depression or anything. But… I am blogging about it and my message is about loving and finding me in spite of and during and through my imperfect self and yes… Part of that is laughing my ass off at how dumb I am.
Xoxo
Comments like this is why blogging is addictive! Thank you so much! We must all laugh at ourselves!!! I think society as a whole needs to quit teaching people to sweep it all under the rug, giving off a persona that one is perfect. When things are swept under the rug, what happens? Nothing. A person goes on through their day, not having to face their problems or do anything about it (i.e. drug abuse, weight loss).
I choose laughter when I can. I mean, life is messy and I have anxiety, so when I actually get an OPTION in how I feel, I’m gonna lean towards the good stuff, ya know???
Totally relate. I’m sorry you have anxiety. I almost feel like anxiety is like the mean sibling of depression. I have it too and it’s enough to drive you batty. Laughter keeps us sane. I literally don’t know what I would do if laughter and a sense of humor did not exist. I would be a shell.
I would be…drunk. A lot. Sadly.